Study of Emotions
Types of Emotions
Survey on Emotions
Dealing With Emotions
Dealing With Emotions
Dealing with emotions is very importance to your health. It's all very well to say
that we must deal with these feelings, but how do we go about doing so, and what exactly is
"dealing with our emotions"?
Accept Your Emotions
Dealing with our feelings is facing, accepting and working through them. We will always have
emotions, so we have to learn to deal with them. If repressed, they will find a way to come out
as in depression, anxieties, panic, eating disorders to name but a few.
A lot of the time, people do not want to feel what they are feeling. They may be ashamed or
guilty of these feelings, or they just do not like a certain emotion. For example, you start to
like your best friend's girl/boyfriend. You don't know how it happened, but you're now stuck in
a predicament where you are totally infatuated with your best friend's girl/boyfriend.
Automatically, you may try to suppress these feelings. If you ignore them, maybe they'll go
away, right? WRONG! The chances are small that your feelings will just leave you; you'll most
probably be feeling terrible about yourself, plus, a build up of pent up emotions leads to
What You Can Do
Confront those emotions that you're trying to ignore. Here's what you might do: keep a
diary in which you write down your feelings. This diary is a way for you to think about the
stuff that you're made of! By writing down and analyzing your feelings, you become
aware of the real reason why you're feeling the way you are, and the emotion becomes less
painful. Some questions you could ask yourself when you're writing in your diary are:
- What am I feeling?
- When did it start?
- What does it make me want to do?
- What were the triggers for this emotion?
- What pictures come to mind as I feel it?
- When else have I felt it? Is it familiar or something new?
- What would I like to say to the person/event/myself? Say it out loud - talk to your dog.
Take the above example, you might discover that it is not really your friend's
girl/boyfriend that you like so much, it's the idea behind it (having a girl/boyfriend). You may
learn that you're lonely, and you just want someone. By writing in the diary, you find all this
out and solve the problem because you no longer like your best friend's girl/boyfriend, and have
something else to focus on, namely, finding yourself a girl/boyfriend!
Or you can talk to someone. Many people go to other people to help them deal with their
emotions; these 'other people' could be your school's guidance counsellor, favorite teacher,
family relative, psychologist or psychotherapist.